Remembering loved ones on All Souls' Day

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All Souls' Day is a solemn way to remember those who have passed, to keep their memory alive in our hearts and to offer prayers for their souls. This day gently calls us to extend our compassion beyond the familiar, not only for those we have loved deeply but also for the "neglected souls" – those who may have been forgotten over time. Such prayers are seen as acts of charity, offerings made in the spirit of hope, that all souls may find peace on their journey to heaven.

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A universal tradition of remembrance

Across diverse religious traditions, the act of praying for the departed is a universal imperative, each faith prescribing unique rituals to honour those who have crossed into the next realm. In Islam, the departed are believed to be "freed" from their tombs during Ramadhan, allowing them to visit their living relatives, with grave cleaning and prayers on Syawal reinforcing this spiritual bond. Buddhism's Ullambana festival, rooted in the compassionate teachings of Buddha Shakyamuni, offers a beautiful tradition for consoling ancestors and spirits, highlighting the legacy of remembrance. Similarly, the Chinese observance of Cheng Beng is a cherished time for veneration, where graves are tended, offerings made and stories shared, echoing the familial bonds that underpin many cultures. These global celebrations bridge continents and unite communities, illustrating the universal human impulse to remember and honour those who have departed from this mortal world.

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Catholics, too, hold a deeply reverent tradition of honouring their dearly departed, especially on All Souls' Day. This sacred observance is a time for devoted prayer, offered particularly for souls believed to be in purgatory, with the hope of hastening their journey toward heaven. These prayers are acts of compassion, embodying the Catholic belief in mercy and redemption. However, Catholics are also aware of St. Matthew’s reminder that not all sins can be forgiven. As the Gospel reads, "and whosoever shall speak a word against the Son of man, it shall be forgiven him: but he that shall speak against the Holy Ghost, it shall not be forgiven him, neither in this world, nor in the world to come". (Matthew 12:32)

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Personal reflections 

When visiting the cemetery of their departed loved ones, Catholics often tend to the graves, placing fresh flowers and lighting candles as they offer heartfelt prayers. In my own family, the week before All Souls' Day has always been marked by our annual visit to the Western Road cemetery, the final resting place for my father Paul, my sister Sandra, my brother Terence, our grandparents, along with many of our granduncles, grandaunties, uncles, aunts and relatives. Having made this visit year after year without fail, we find ourselves retracing footsteps across familiar paths, each step filled with memories. There is a bittersweet comfort in these moments, standing together in prayer, honouring the lives that shaped us. The cemetery, for us, is more than a resting place; it is a hallowed ground where love and remembrance converge, keeping our family’s stories alive.

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“Our grandparents are over there,” my late sister Sandra would announce, pointing with a gentle certainty, “and eight plots down is our Auntie Catherine". She always seemed to know the exact places, as if guided by a quiet reverence for those who came before us.

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In the early 1980s, my late father undertook the task of reconstructing parts of the family gravesite to accommodate numerous urns. With a family of eight children himself – and five siblings of his own – he knew, with a wisdom that was both pragmatic and deeply sentimental, that this would be the best way to keep our family together, even in death. This concept seemed to have gained quiet momentum, with other graves in the newer section of the Western Road cemetery adopting the same space-saving approach.

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Acts of connection

Each year, as we gather to remember our loved ones, we light candles and join in the recitation of the rosary at each gravesite. We offer up our hopes that these devotions reach the heavens. Surrounded by so many resting souls, we find ourselves attuned to the smallest signs, almost expecting a subtle acknowledgment from beyond. There are moments when this ethereal connection is so deeply felt that we sense a presence among us, a quiet comfort in believing that the spirits of those we cherish still linger, joining us in these sacred moments of remembrance.

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When Catholics observe All Souls' Day, they are in fact actually re-enacting the actions of Judas Maccabeus, a biblical figure who first saw the power of prayer for the dead. After burying a band of pagan soldiers, Judas believed that prayers could deliver them from their sins, granting them entrance to heaven. His actions planted the seeds of a tradition that has endured across centuries, offering hope that love and intercession can transcend even the grave.

Yet, the significance of this tradition stretches beyond religious lines. It stands as a quiet but profound reminder that life does not stretch on forever. The flicker of a candle on a tombstone is a silent witness to the brevity of our existence, like the candle itself, our lives will one day come to an end. Much like a song that begins, enchants and ultimately fades into silence, we, too, will live, laugh and cry before setting forth on our final journey.

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Cultural perspectives on life and death

The ancient Aztecs held a poetic belief – that life is but a fleeting dream and death, rather than an end, is the awakening to a truer reality. In their view, passing from this world is not a loss but a return – a release from illusion to a more profound truth. This understanding resonates across diverse cultures and religions worldwide, which remind us, in their own ways, that the material world is only temporary. To cling to it is, ultimately, an exercise in futility.

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The feast of All Souls' Day, observed annually on 2 November, occupies a sacred place in the hearts of Catholics. On this day, requiem masses are celebrated in churches worldwide, honouring the memory of those who have departed. The priests officiating these solemn masses don vestments of distinctive colours, each imbued with its own symbolism. Black vestments are worn to signify mourning and sorrow for the dead, a silent acknowledgment of grief. Violet robes, representing penance and reflection, invite a deeper contemplation of life, death and forgiveness. And in the hopeful anticipation of resurrection, white vestments are sometimes chosen, embodying the faith that those who have passed will one day be reborn into eternal life.

Through these symbolic colours and reverent prayers, All Souls' Day becomes not just a remembrance, but a connection to the souls of those who have left this world, reminding the faithful of the mysteries that lie beyond.

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Written and photographed by Adrian Cheah
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Updated 31 October 2024